段貞夙  老師 (Susan)

 
Why  個案心得及老師解析
 

* New! 不斷重複的感情模式與創傷
Repeated Patterns and Trauma about Love
2020.06
* New! 阿卡西紀錄解讀:找到人生啟航的方向
Akashic Record Reading: Finding The Setting Sail Direction Of Life 2020.04
* New! 非常害怕在公開場合說話
Fear to Speak in Public
 
2020.02
* 解決情感關係的內心阻礙
Resolve The Inner Obstacles of Emotional Relationships
2019.11
* 阿卡西紀錄解讀:解開人生與職涯卡住的結
Akashic Record Reading:
Untie the Knot of Life and Career
2019.8
* 找到人生動力與方向
Get the Motivation and Direction of life " 
2019.7
* 自我防衛帶來了逃避以及莫名不安
Self Defense Brings the Escaping and the Unknown Anxiety. 
2019.4
* 阿卡西記錄解讀:解決自卑情結 
Akashic Record Reading : Get Rid of Inferiority Complex 
2019.1
* 焦慮與抗拒成為一個照顧他人的角色 
Being Anxious and Resisting to Become the Role of Taking Care of Others 
2018.11
* 莫名的潔癖恐慌 
Inexplicable Panic of Fearing to Be Dirty 
2018.4
* 憂鬱症 
Depression 
2018.1
* 童年匱乏愛,導致偏差的愛情及人生方式 2017.7
* 焦慮沮喪 2017.7
* 恐慌症 2017.1
* 煩惱於教養孩子及創業工作
* 內在能量依賴沒長大,導致的情感與人際痛苦
* 恐懼、不敢表達、選擇及承擔---修正負面模式習氣 
* 工作及人生茫然無方向
* 憂鬱症,缺乏動力,易怒
* 情感挫敗不斷重覆
* 人際恐懼、自我封閉
* 既逃避與競爭的矛盾性格
* 暴食及人際上的不開心
* 憂鬱症,人際退縮
* 身心症狀、心悸、恐慌症
* 婆媳夫妻親子關係緊張與憤怒
* 缺乏自信,不敢承擔,甲狀腺機能亢進
* 習於逃避,婚姻不順遂
* 暴食與購物狂之成癮

 
 

New! 非常害怕在公開場合說話
Fear to Speak in Public

開始有力量去表達
Start to Have Strength to Speak

Lily  撰


我的人生在別人看來,應該已經是過得很不錯了的吧。求學時候,雖然不是第一志願,但也都還算中等學校,畢業之後也很幸運來到一個類似公務單位的機構,也有個長期感情穩定的對象。可是我有一個一直在心裡很難面對的問題,就是我非常害怕在公開場合說話,以前念書的時候,最害怕被老師點名起來回答問題,本來會的東西,只要一站起來,我就一片空白,所以我後來找工作,都是找那種不用公開講話的,像是做行政文書的,以為這樣就天下太平了。幾年前,我在工作的單位裡年資到了一定程度,之前主管一直要讓我升遷,可是我因為知道我很怕公開說話,所以一直婉拒,可是去年,因為組織有些調整變動,主管說,再不升你,難道要升剛進來的人嗎?
My life seems to be a pretty good life to others. When I was in school, although not my first choice, they were still secondary schools. After graduation, I was fortunate to come to an institution similar to a public service unit, and I also have a long-term emotional stability partner. But there is always a problem in my heart, which is that I am very afraid of speaking in public. When I was a student, I was most afraid of being named by the teacher to answer the question, as soon as I stood up, what I had known would disappear in my head. So, when I was looking for a job, I only chose those jobs didn't need to speak publicly, like an administrative document. I thought it would be peaceful. A few years ago, my seniority in the work unit reached a certain level, before that, my supervisor always wanted to promote me, however, I always refused because I knew that I was afraid to speak publicly. But last year, because of some organizational changes, the supervisor said, if not promoting you, would we promote one of the new members to be the project leader?


所以我就變成一個小單位的小主管了。其實事情我都可以做,小組裡開會,雖然緊張,但因為人不多,也算是熟悉,還可以撐得住,但是每周一次的主管會議,對我就是個壓力了,甚至有時候因為業務需要,我主管還要我一起去跟大老闆開會報告時,我簡直就變成急凍人了,雖然還是開口說了話,可是下台後,我就開始後悔,為什麼沒講這個,沒講那個,很自責,當台下提問時,我更是不知道自己在講甚麼,每次開完會,我的主管常常都一臉鐵青,我覺得很抱歉但也很委屈,就說了不要升我做主管啊。有一天,我主管可能真的看不下去了,他給了我一個網站,就是歐蘭朵,他也沒多說甚麼,我也是就看一看,沒太放在心上。直到前幾個月,我的焦慮好像變嚴重到,晚上失眠,睡著後會磨牙,牙醫說再這樣下去要做甚麼咬合板之類的,說快把牙齒磨壞了,我感覺到自己的工作效率愈來愈低,情緒也愈來愈糟,這時候我又想起歐蘭朵網站,我想或許是該面對的時候了吧。
So, I became a small supervisor in a small unit. In fact, I could do everything. Although the group would have meetings, although I was nervous, but because there were not many people, and we were familiar, and I could stay calm, but the weekly supervisor meeting was a stress to me, and sometimes even because of business, when my supervisor asked me to participate in the report with our boss, I became a frozen person. Although I still spoke, I regret after I stepped down. Why didn't I say this or that? Then I am very guilty. When being asked questions from the boss or the managers, I didn’t even know what I was talking about. Every time after the meeting, my supervisor always looks serious. I feel sorry. One day, my supervisor may be really bothered by my such a situation, she gave me a website, that is Orlando Subconscious, he didn't say much, I just took a look and didn't take it too seriously. Until a few months ago, my worries seemed to get worse. Insomnia at night, I will bruise my teeth after falling asleep. The dentist said what to do if I continued to bite the board, I would destroy my teeth. At the same time, I felt my work efficiency was getting lower and lower, and the mood was getting worse. At that time, I think of Orlando Subconscious website again. I thought it may be time to face it.


見到段老師,我也不知道要講甚麼,面對一個陌生人其實挺緊張的,但是段老師很和善地問我一些問題,慢慢地好像我的人生過往的地圖就被畫出來了,光是第一次會談就花了四個小時,但是段老師很有耐心,我在想我這樣平凡的人生有甚麼好談四個小時啊,但是段老師告訴我,他看到了我的一些特質與困境模式,聽了之後,自己也有種恍然大悟。正式做潛意識處理,一開始,我實在太緊張了,所以有點難進入潛意識狀態,段老師沒有放棄我,寬慰我一些話,我就想好啦,就交給段老師吧,結果作童年探索時,我才知道我自以為無憂無慮的童年,其實有那麼多小小的委屈和害怕,原來這些都成了我後來害怕在公開場合說話的根本原因,後來處理完這次之後,好像人真的變得心情比較開朗了。後來又做了兩次處理,逐漸來到說話這件事了,原來我的委屈和害怕的模式已經深植在我的潛意識,之後在人群中,這種模式就表現在說話這件事情上了,本來我以為我只害怕公開說話,但是在潛意識回溯探索時,從冒出來的經歷看到,其實即使私底下我也是對人很防衛的,彷彿深怕又要嚐到委屈了。一次次在段老師引導與療癒下,我逐漸找到了從自己內在的力量。現在,我感覺到跟人說話可以比較輕鬆自在,最近年末總會議的時候,我的情緒是平靜的,我在開會前,我練習著段老師在潛意識過程中教我的方法,我覺得自己開始有力量去表達自己了,比以前能說出我其實之前就整理過且熟悉的業務。
When I met Teacher Duan, I didn't know what to say. It was actually very nervous to face a stranger, but Teacher Duan asked me some questions kindly, and gradually it seemed as if a map of my life was drawn. It took four hours for the first time, but Teacher Duan was very patient. I was thinking about why it could take to talk for four hours about my ordinary life, but Teacher Duan told me that she saw some of my characteristics and patterns. After her explanation, I also had a kind of sudden realization. The next was doing subconscious treatment, at the beginning, I was too nervous, so it was a bit difficult to enter the subconscious state. Teacher Duan did not give me up and comforted me. I just wanted to trust Teacher Duan. As a result of childhood explorations, I realized that I thought that I had a carefree childhood, however, in fact, there were so many small grievances and fears, these turned out to be the root causes of my later fear of speaking in public. After I dealt with this time, I seemed to become more cheerful. Later, I dealt with it twice, and gradually came to the issue of speaking. Then I realized that the original pattern of my grievances and fears had been deeply rooted in my subconscious, and then in the crowd, this pattern was manifested in the matter of speaking. At first, I thought I was only afraid of speaking in public, but when I regressed and explored subconsciously, I saw from the experience that I was in fact, even in private, I was very defensive against people, because I was afraid that I would feel hurt again. With the guidance and subconscious healing of Teacher Duan, I gradually found the strength within my heart. Now, I start to feel that speaking to people become easier and more comfortable. At the general meeting at the end of the last year, my mood was peaceful, before the meeting, I practiced the method that the teacher taught me in the subconscious process, then I felt that I had the power to express myself, and I could speak more about the business content that I had organized and familiar with before.


我真的從沒想過那些小時候的委屈,已經過去了,怎麼還會影響我,也許就像老師說的,創傷有時候累積多了久了,並不會隨著時間消失,所以那句話,時間會治療一切,應該不正確,還是要真的去面對去解決吧。我在想,如果能早點遇到潛意識方法,我的人生過去應該可以少走點冤枉路,但是沒關係,我還是很感謝,至少現在我改變了。段老師,謝謝你。

I never really thought about the grievances which happened in my childhood could still affect me. Maybe as Teacher Duan said, sometimes if the trauma repeatedly accumulated for a long time, then they won't disappear with time, so that sentence “Time will heal everything”, I think it should be incorrect, or we should really face it and solve it. I was thinking that if I could meet the subconscious method earlier, my life should be able to take less wrongdoing, but it doesn't matter, I am still very grateful, at least now I have changed. Teacher Duan, thank you.


段老師的話 (Teacher Duan's Words)
Lily說他的童年在他認知裡,是無憂無慮,沒想到竟然有著負面因素,影響了他的表達能力。很多人可能都以為一定要經歷過甚麼重大創傷,才會造成影響,其實在我的實際個案處理經驗上來看,重點不是重不重大,即使是一種看似微小的刺激,但如果它出現在生活裡很頻繁或重複,如同滴水穿石的力量,就可能成為一種模式,例如如果一群小孩天天一起玩耍,但這個孩子每一次都跑輸或玩輸,即使只是玩樂,久而久之,也會開始覺得形成一種對自我的認知---我很差勁,我很沒用。這樣的自我認知也會使得此人對於各種新事物的學習或挑戰,缺乏自信甚至逃避。Lily因為同年齡的表姊多才多藝,即使大人沒有比較或指責,但是屢屢看見表姊表現優秀,是個演講朗讀乃至表演的能手,在家族相聚時,Lily開始也變得防衛退縮,而家族因為住在附近,相處頻密,同年齡的表姊常常跟自己編在同一班或就讀同校,以至於這樣的對比與自卑逐漸形成了一種內在模式。雖然在他的記憶裡,大家玩在一起,感情很好,很開心,但是這個自卑創傷毫無矛盾地也並存在他的生命中。

Lily said that her childhood was carefree in his cognition, and she did not expect that there were negative factors that affected his ability to speak. Many people may think that they must have experienced some major trauma before, it will have an impact. In fact, in my actual client dealing experiences, the importance is not whether the trauma is huge or not, even if it is a seemingly minor stimulus, but if it appears in life frequently or repeatedly, like the power of dripping through the stones, it may become a pattern. For example, if a group of children play together every day, but this child always loses, even if it is just for fun, after over and over again, it will start to become a kind of self-cognition --- I'm terrible, I'm useless. Such self-cognition will also make this person lack of self-confidence or even escape from various new things. Because in the childhood, Lily's cousin ??of the same age was excellent, even if the parents had not compared or accused her, but they often got to know her cousin ??perform well. Her cousin was good at speech and performance. When the family got together, Lily began to become defensive and withdrawn. Nearby, they got along frequently, and her cousin ??of the same age often studied in the same class or attend the same school, so that such a contrast and inferiority had gradually formed
a kind of inner pattern. Although in her memory, they played together, feeling good and happy, this inferiority trauma still also existed in her life without contradiction.


當然有些個案,即使頭腦也清楚知道以上的來龍去脈,但依然深陷困擾,這確實就得仰賴在潛意識中進行細緻的探索,以及對應的療癒,使內在長出屬於自己的自信與力量,跳脫那個比較的模式,真正自在地走在自己的人生道路上。

Of course, in some cases, even if the mind clearly knows the ins and outs of the above, but is still deeply troubled, it really depends on fine exploration in the subconscious and the corresponding healing, so that the inner self-confidence and strength could grow, then get rid of that comparison pattern and really go on one's own life path freely.



 

 

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