段貞夙  老師 (Susan)

 
Why  個案心得及老師解析
 

* New! 讓人生重新開機--潛意識裡來自原生家庭的制約與影響
Let my life restart-- The Constraints and Influences from The Primary Family in The Subconscious
2020.11
* New! 阿卡西紀錄解讀:找到中年時期的人生新方向
Akashic Record Reading: Found The New Life Direction in The Middle Age
2020.08
* New! 不斷重複的感情模式與創傷
Repeated Patterns and Trauma about Love
2020.06
* New! 阿卡西紀錄解讀:找到人生啟航的方向
Akashic Record Reading: Finding The Setting Sail Direction Of Life 2020.04
* New! 非常害怕在公開場合說話
Fear to Speak in Public
 
2020.02
* 解決情感關係的內心阻礙
Resolve The Inner Obstacles of Emotional Relationships
2019.11
* 阿卡西紀錄解讀:解開人生與職涯卡住的結
Akashic Record Reading:
Untie the Knot of Life and Career
2019.8
* 找到人生動力與方向
Get the Motivation and Direction of life " 
2019.7
* 自我防衛帶來了逃避以及莫名不安
Self Defense Brings the Escaping and the Unknown Anxiety. 
2019.4
* 阿卡西記錄解讀:解決自卑情結 
Akashic Record Reading : Get Rid of Inferiority Complex 
2019.1
* 焦慮與抗拒成為一個照顧他人的角色 
Being Anxious and Resisting to Become the Role of Taking Care of Others 
2018.11
* 莫名的潔癖恐慌 
Inexplicable Panic of Fearing to Be Dirty 
2018.4
* 憂鬱症 
Depression 
2018.1
* 童年匱乏愛,導致偏差的愛情及人生方式 2017.7
* 焦慮沮喪 2017.7
* 恐慌症 2017.1
* 煩惱於教養孩子及創業工作
* 內在能量依賴沒長大,導致的情感與人際痛苦
* 恐懼、不敢表達、選擇及承擔---修正負面模式習氣 
* 工作及人生茫然無方向
* 憂鬱症,缺乏動力,易怒
* 情感挫敗不斷重覆
* 人際恐懼、自我封閉
* 既逃避與競爭的矛盾性格
* 暴食及人際上的不開心
* 憂鬱症,人際退縮
* 身心症狀、心悸、恐慌症
* 婆媳夫妻親子關係緊張與憤怒
* 缺乏自信,不敢承擔,甲狀腺機能亢進
* 習於逃避,婚姻不順遂
* 暴食與購物狂之成癮

 
 

*New! 讓人生重新開機--潛意識裡來自原生家庭的制約與影響
Let my life restart-- The Constraints and Influences from The Primary Family in The Subconscious


Let my life restart
讓人生重新開機

Sapling 撰


認識我的人一定會覺得不可思議,我怎麼會接下段老師說寫篇潛意識諮詢的心得文章分享,這樣的邀約?講好聽一點,我是一個超級注重隱私的人,講難聽一點,我是一個不讓我圈圈以外的人看到我弱點的人。要是以前的我一定冷冷拒絕,不然就是耍賴擺爛。好巧不巧我剛看完Michale Singer 的臣服實驗,深受啟發,決定將自己的好惡擺在一旁,接受這生命帶來的小功課。Funny thing, 在聽到老師的邀約時,我其實是驚訝多於抗拒。這樣是不是代表我稍有進步,不再在意別人想法? LOL

People who know me will find it unbelievable about why I would accept the invitation from Teacher Duan to write an article about subconscious consultation and share with others. Positively speaking, I am a person caring about privacy, negatively speaking, I am a person who avoids people outside my circle from seeing my weaknesses. If in the past time I must coldly refuse the invitation or never get it done. It just so happened when I just watched Michale Singer's surrender experiment. I was deeply inspired and decided to put my likes and dislikes aside and accepted the little homework that life brought to me. Funny thing, when I heard the teacher’s invitation, I was more surprised than resisting. Does this mean that I have made a little progress and no longer care about other people's opions? LOL
When the student is ready, the teacher appears.

和老師結緣的經過也是特別奇妙。當時的我剛回台幾個月,在旅居國外將近10年後再度和原生家庭朝夕相處,把我這兩三年自以為是的修行打回原形。“If you think you are so enlightened, go and spend a week with your parents.” 我發現雖然我意識到我的原生家庭(最主要是媽媽)對我的制約,也想要原諒和解。但,其實我原諒和解的前提是要她改變,要她變成我理想中的媽媽。當然,事情絕對沒有這麼簡單,在幾次衝突後,不想再受傷的我決定放棄彼此的關係,就當個最熟悉的陌生人吧!然而,人生哪容我逃避?在家的時間變得更加痛苦尷尬,就是要逼我出來面對!在這個背景下,因緣際會得知段老師的潛意識諮詢,從來沒有想過要做心理諮詢的我,不知怎麼的就被吸了過來,隔週就約了老師做諮詢。(後來老師笑說,她是我向宇宙call 來的)

The process of getting to know Teacher Duan is also very wonderful. At that time, I had just returned to Taiwan for a few months. After nearly 10 years of living abroad, I once again spent time with my primary family, and it cracked my self-righteous practicing for the past two or three years. “If you think you are so enlightened, go and spend a week with your parents.” I found that although I realized that my primary family (especially my mother) restricted me, and I did want to forgive and reconcile, however, the premise of my forgiveness and reconciliation was to ask her to change and to become my ideal mother. Of course, things are definitely not simple that way. After a few conflicts, I decided to abandon the relationship with her and become each other’s most familiar stranger, but life will never let me escape from this. It forced me to face it when the time at home became more painful and awkward! In this situation, I was fortunate enough to know about Teacher Duan’s subconscious consultation. I had never thought of doing psychological consultation, but somehow, I was attracted to it! And I asked the teacher for consultation in the next week. (Later, the teacher laughed and said that it was me to call the universe to bring Teacher Duan to me.)

原生家庭是我的痛點,所以潛意識處理也自然著重在這一塊。我覺得段老師的潛意識處理來得正是時候。之前我有做過一些能量療癒,幫我做過治療的朋友都說我的心有很深很深的洞,甚至有一個朋友說他看到我的內在小孩把自己關起來。在老師的引導下,我在潛意識中,清楚體會到這些創傷是怎麼形成的,癥結點在哪,這些過去的事件如何形塑我的自我價值與人生觀。請注意,這裡我用「體會」 兩字,是因為在潛意識處理中,我真真切切地感受到當時的痛苦,感受的同時,在老師創造的安全場域(safe space)裡盡情宣洩長久壓抑的情感,其實療癒也就開始了。

Primary family is my pain point, so subconscious processing naturally focuses on this area. I think Teacher Duan’s subconscious processing came at the right time. I had done some energy healing before, the friends who helped me with the treatment said that my heart had a deep hole, and even said that my inner child closed herself up. Under the guidance of the teacher, I experienced clearly in subconscious how these traumas were formed, where are the cruxes, and how these past events shaped my self-worth and outlook on life. Please note that I use the word "experience" here because in the subconscious processing, I really felt the pain at that time. At the same time, I vented the emotions which had been suppressed for a long time in the safe space created by the teacher. In fact, the healing was beginning.

之後在老師帶領下,我體驗到來自宇宙生命純粹的愛,這份愛其實同時也存在我的父母心裡,只是他們心有餘而力不足。老師更以大自然為師,讓我體會到生命與愛的真諦。

Later, under the guidance of the teacher, I experienced pure love from the universe. This love really existed in the hearts of my parents, but they had not enough energy and ability to express it. The teacher also took nature as a teacher, so that I could realize the true meaning of life and love.

我的心情開始愈來愈穩定舒坦。潛意識處理週期完成後。我決定繼續跟老師每個月上一次兩小時的個人課,當作定期維修。有次,在前世回溯時瞭解到這一世的課題是「勇敢前進, 為自己的人生負責, 不要將失敗怪罪別人」, 在療癒進行一個段落後, 我決定繼多年後,再次挑戰汽車考照(這是有個典故的,我的母親是個self identified 機械白痴, 當我第一次考照失敗時我安慰自己這應該是遺傳吧,以及告訴自己,沒關係,我是個城市小孩,根本不需要開車, 就這樣我沒有去參加補考。)奇怪的是,在駕訓班上課時,我是個不聽話的學生,課本也是有讀沒有進去。某次諮詢時,我很疑惑地問段老師,我明明很想考到駕照,為什麼教練要我們做筆記時,我非常抗拒?也靜不下心讀筆試課本?在老師帶領下,才發現,原來,話聽不進去或反骨不照做, 是因為聽教練的話,在我潛意識裡認為,這樣彷彿我很無能、很笨,我只為了要保護自尊心,結果造成反抗去做到自己其實想做的事,然而想想,若是因為這樣而沒有考上,不就還真的證明我很無能了嗎?因為老師這番引導,我帶著這樣療癒後的覺知再去駕訓班上課複習,如果不熟,我就多練幾次,1000題筆試考古題我也耐心做完,複習錯的部分。雖然最後我道路考試沒過,但是我筆試滿分, 場內考試也沒有失誤,而第二次道路考試我也很順利的零失誤過關,並且拿到了駕照。

After the subconscious processing cycle was completed, my mood become more and more stable and comfortable. I decided to continue to have a two-hour personal lesson with the Teacher Duan once a month as a regular maintenance. One time, when looking back in a past lifetime, I learned that the subject of this lifetime is "Go forward bravely, take responsibility for my own life, and don't blame others for failure." After a period of healing, I decided to challenge the mobile license test again after many years (This is a story. My mother is a self-identified mechanical idiot. When I failed the first mobile license test, I comforted myself that it should be hereditary, and told myself that it was okay, I was a city kid and I did not need to drive at all. Therefore, I didn’t take the make-up exam.) The strange thing is that when I was in the driving training class, I was a disobedient student, and I did not read the book into my head. In a certain consultation, I asked Teacher Duan about my such manner, I obviously wanted to get a driver’s license, why did I resist when the coach asked us to take notes? Why couldn't I calm down and read the written textbook? Under the guidance of the teacher, I discovered the reason why I didn’t listen to or follow the coach's words was because in my subconscious it made me feel I was incompetent and stupid to follow the coach’s words. I wanted to protect my self-esteem, but it turned into resisting to what I wanted to do. However, if I failed to pass the exam because of the reason, didn't it really prove that I was incompetent? This time, I brought this healed awareness to the driving training class to review, when I was not familiar, I would practice a few more times. I also patiently finished the 1,000 written archaeological questions and reviewed the wrong parts. Although I did not pass the road test in the end, I got a perfect score in the written test, and I did not make any mistakes in the on-site test. In the second time of road test, I also passed it smoothly and got a driving license.

當然,人生的課題不是這麼簡單的。要在日常生活中,活出這份快樂與自在才不枉走這趟,對吧!我很感謝老師每次諮詢都會幫我總結當日金句,讓我可以回去後,時時觀照自我提醒。當我心中最關鍵的糾結,開始鬆動後,很多延伸出來的問題,一旦處理起來也事半功倍。後來我們又陸續處理了我和父親的關係,這一世的人生課題 ( 透過前世回溯….這邊我一定要說老師的金句實在是太一針見血了,讓我想逃避都不行,哈哈!)以及兩性關係等。很多東西我還在學習與改變,但是我很明顯地感受到這幾個月我活得比較自在。很感謝段老師,希望以後能參加老師在教室開設的團體課。如果你看到這篇文章而 覺得有幫助的話,也是個善緣呢。:)

Of course, the issues of life are not so simple, so we have to live out this happiness and comfort in our daily life to take this trip not in vain, right! I am so grateful to the teacher for helping me to sum up the key-point sentences of every course I consulted, so that I could always review and remind myself. When the most suffering problem in my heart began to loosen up, to deal with other problems that extended out of it also become more effective. Later, we dealt with the relationship between my father and me, the life issues of this lifetime (Looking back through the past lifetime.... Here I must say that the teacher’s key-point sentence hit the nail on the head, and it let me not escape any more, haha!) and affection relationship. I am still learning and changing, and I obviously feel that I have lived more comfortably in the past few months. I am very thankful to Teacher Duan, and hope to participate in the group class offered by the teacher in the classroom. If you read this article and find it helpful, that would be so nice :)

段老師的話( Teacher Duan's Words):

我曾經看過這樣的話,童年有創傷的人,將花一輩子的時間去療癒創傷。
I have seen such words, a person who has trauma in childhood will spend a lifetime to heal the trauma.

我的看法是,其實世上每個人多多少少都有待學習的課題,而人之所以成為了父母,只是證明其生理上成熟了,並沒說心靈足夠成熟的人,才有資格當父母,因此所謂還在學習道路上的父母,在教養孩子的過程裡,想當然一定屢屢不自覺的帶給孩子有形或無形的壓力,甚至導致孩子在經歷愛或培養自信上遭遇挫敗,這些累積久了,成為所謂的創傷,即使不到創傷的程度,但也會成為某種在想法知見、情感、表達上的模式,我們就在不自覺之下,受這些模式的制約與影響。甚至即使遇見了心靈成熟度夠高的父母,但如果這個孩子就是有屬於他自己靈識上仍未完成或待學習的課題,也一樣會在其成長過程中,被引動出來,例如父母很開明,鼓勵每個孩子展現及表達自己,但是某個孩子因為過去世就有著缺乏自信的課題,於是小小年紀,在兄弟姐妹間,也會自己心生恐懼,不自覺的在自己心中比較著姐姐比較會唱歌、弟弟比較會說故事,我甚麼都不會…。

My view is that in fact, everyone in the world has issues to learn. When a person becomes a parent, it can only to prove that he/she is physically matured, but It does not represent that the person who is matured enough in his/her mind is qualified to be a parent. Therefore, so-called parents who are still on the road of learning, in the process of raising their children, they of course unconsciously bring tangible or intangible pressure to their children, and even make their children frustrated in experiencing love or establishing self-confidence. When these situations are accumulated for a long time, it forms the so-called trauma. Even if it is not so serious, it will also become a certain pattern of perception, emotion, and expression. We are unconsciously restricted and affected by these patterns. Even if you meet a parent with a sufficiently high level of spiritual maturity, if the child has his spiritually unfinished or unlearned issues, it will be triggered during growing up. For example, parents are very open-minded and encourage every child to express themselves, there is a boy bringing the issues of lacking of self-confidence from his past lifetime, then at a young age, among brothers and sisters, the boy will unconsciously have the emotions of fears to think that my elder sister is better at singing and my younger brother is better at telling stories, but I am not good at anything...

Sapling 因為父母工作忙碌,幼年時常感受不到親密的關愛,無形中,在情感上缺少了信任,造就了她對愛的不安全感與渴望,這種影響,在個案身上我們會看到,它有時不只影響了人際關係,也會表現在學校、職場中,容易感受到競爭的壓力,彷彿有種不自覺的驅策力,逼使自己一定要表現優異,但它往往也帶來了過度的自我要求,及隨之而來的焦慮與緊張。所以在潛意識處理週期裡,當我處理了她從童年開始,在父母那裡的愛的匱乏創傷之後,再處理她的職場挫敗、人際情感壓力,便自然地,水到渠成了。

Because her parents were busy in working, Sapling seldom felt the close love in her childhood. Invisibly, she became lacking emotional trust, which caused her insecurities and over-desiring for love. This kind of influence sometimes affected not only her interpersonal relationships but also to make her feel the pressure of competition and push themselves to perform well in schools and workplaces, then it also often brought excessive self-demand, anxiety, and tension. Therefore, in the subconscious healing process, I first dealt with her lack of love from her parents from childhood trauma, and then dealt with her workplace frustrations and interpersonal emotional pressure, then naturally every pressure and trauma got healed.

童年,是我們美好的養成土壤,也是我們生命模式的形成起點,回溯童年,確實是我長年在對個案做潛意識處理時,很重要的基礎環節,當我協助個案,將童年創傷療癒後,並使個案們學習並建立正面的模式,他們的人生彷彿就得以重新開機,迎向光明。可愛又聰慧的Sapling,就是又再一次證明這一點的個案朋友。

Childhood is both our wonderful cultivation soil and the starting point of our life pattern. Regressing at childhood is an important and basic step when I deal with the clients in subconscious healing works of these years. When I assist the clients to heal their childhood trauma and enable them to learn and establish positive patterns, their lives seem to be able to restart and move forward to the light. Sapling being lovely and smart is just the client who proved the above again.


 

 

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