段貞夙  老師 (Susan)

 
Why  個案心得及老師解析
 

* New! 不再「畢業即是失業」
No More "Graduation Is without Job" 
2019.7
* New! 自我防衛帶來了逃避以及莫名不安
Self Defense Brings the Escaping and the Unknown Anxiety. 
2019.4
* 阿卡西記錄解讀:解決自卑情結 
Akashic Record Reading : Get Rid of Inferiority Complex 
2019.1
* 焦慮與抗拒成為一個照顧他人的角色 
Being Anxious and Resisting to Become the Role of Taking Care of Others 
2018.11
* 莫名的潔癖恐慌 
Inexplicable Panic of Fearing to Be Dirty 
2018.4
* 憂鬱症 
Depression 
2018.1
* 童年匱乏愛,導致偏差的愛情及人生方式 2017.7
* 焦慮沮喪 2017.7
* 恐慌症 2017.1
* 煩惱於教養孩子及創業工作
* 內在能量依賴沒長大,導致的情感與人際痛苦
* 恐懼、不敢表達、選擇及承擔---修正負面模式習氣 
* 工作及人生茫然無方向
* 憂鬱症,缺乏動力,易怒
* 情感挫敗不斷重覆
* 人際恐懼、自我封閉
* 既逃避與競爭的矛盾性格
* 暴食及人際上的不開心
* 憂鬱症,人際退縮
* 身心症狀、心悸、恐慌症
* 婆媳夫妻親子關係緊張與憤怒
* 缺乏自信,不敢承擔,甲狀腺機能亢進
* 習於逃避,婚姻不順遂
* 暴食與購物狂之成癮

 
 

*New! 不再「畢業即是失業」             
No More "Graduation Is without Job" 

開始找到人生動力與方向
Start to Get The Motivation and
Direction of Life
 
      
       
 Alice 撰
自從畢業以後,我工作一直不順,要嘛做幾個月就離職,要嘛就在家拖好幾個月,找工作也是常使不上力氣,我很羨慕那種在學期間就對未來很有規劃的同學,就這樣也快三十歲了,我很怕自己變成所謂的尼特族,其實我並不想這樣廢,我也很想自己是充滿陽光朝氣的,可是我是個每天早上都不想起床,不拖到最後一秒不出門,上班常遲到,很害怕主管看我的眼光。後來有朋友推薦我看段老師的歐蘭朵網頁,我看到一些個案心得文章,其實很有感覺,我想我要給自己一次機會。

Since I graduated, it was very unsmooth about my job. Often a job only lasted for a few months, and then stayed home for several months. I didn’t have energy to find the next job. I was envious of my some classmates who had plans for the future. Now I am almost thirty years old. I am afraid that I will become a “Neet”. In fact, I didn’t like to be such a person, I also hope to be full of energy, but I often couldn’t get up in the morning, always delayed or late for work, very afraid of the supervisor to see my faults. Recently, a friend recommended me to see Teacher Duan’s Orlando website, I read some cases of her clients, actually, I feel touched very much. I think I want to give myself a chance.

很奇妙,雖然是第一次見到段老師,但是段老師好像很快就懂我在說什麼,我放心多了,至少他不會像我家人親戚是批判我的,當段老師說「你一定也不想這樣,這不是你故意的,對吧?」我差點要哭出來,有種終於有人懂我的感覺,所以我決定把自己交給段老師幫助我,段老師說其實我這拖延使不上力的狀態,應該在當學生的時候已經這樣了,我想想確實如此,只是因為那時候有學校老師和補習班逼,我就照著他們給什麼就讀什麼。第一次會談雖然還沒做正式的潛意識處理,可是我覺得已經有種可以改變的信心了。

Very wonderful, although it was the first time that I saw Teacher Duan, but she seemed to be able to understand what I said very quickly. I was relieved. At least she would not criticize me like my families or relatives. When she said, “In fact, you don’t like to be so. It’s not your intention, right?” I was touched almost to cry out. She could realize my feelings, so I decided to give myself to Teacher Duan to help me. She said that my such situation should had existed when I was a student, then I thought it was real, just because during that period of time, there were school teachers and tutoring classes, I followed what they gave me. Although in the first meeting, we had not yet done a formal subconscious treatment, I felt that there was already a kind of confidence to change.

後來幾次做潛意識處理,我在過程中更清楚知道原來我一直沒有問過自己要什麼,我從小就只是一直在做父母老師要我做的事──念書考試,希望得到他們喜歡我,雖然好像也沒考很好,一直等到大學畢業了,我像一隻放進大海的魚,完全不知道接下來要游去哪裡,原來潛意識深處是很害怕做不好,父母親戚朋友大家看我很沒用,所以我愈來愈想躲起來。

Later, I accepted subconscious treatments several times, I realized more clearly in the process that I had never asked myself what I wanted. I had been doing what my parents and teachers wanted me to do since I was a child--taking exams, hoping to get them like me, though I seemed to not express very well. Until I was graduated from the university, suddenly I was like a fish to be put into the sea, I didn’t know where to go next. I was afraid of doing not well, my parents, relatives and all people would look me useless, so I tried to hide myself over and over again.

幸好找到段老師,一些心裡的結解開了,我好像才開始活起來,開始用我自己的身份去接觸這個世界,問自己到底喜歡什麼,其實還是有點徬徨,但是只要想起用上老師教我的方法,我就有了動力可以起床可以出門(原來我不是真的那麼貪睡啊,是因為潛意識幫我用睡眠逃避醒來的人生!),敢跟主管問問題。段老師說「你可以一邊學習工作內容,還有人付你錢,多幸福啊!」呵呵,老師怎麼會有這種想法啊,但是這樣想挺有趣的,挺開心的。我現在就一邊上班,一邊週末去進修我有興趣了解的行銷知識,至少開始愉快地活起來了,知道自己在做什麼的感覺真好。謝謝段老師。

Fortunately, I found Teacher Duan to help me solve my heart's knots. I just started to live. Now I start to contact the world with my own identity. I ask myself what I like. In fact, it is still a little uncertain, but every time as long as I use the method from Teach Duan’s teaching, I have the motivation to get up and go out ( wow, I am not really so sleepy, the truth is my subconsciousness helped me escape from the real life with sleep!)  I dare to ask questions with my supervisor. Teacher Duan said, "You can learn the work content, and people pay you money, how happy!" Oh, how could she have such an idea? but it is a really very interesting idea and make me happy. Now I go to work, at the weekend I go to study the marketing knowledge that I am interested. I start at least to live happily, and it’s so good to be aware what I am doing. Thank you, Teacher Duan.



段老師的話 (Teacher Duan’s Words)

教育本來是要啟發人們對自我及世界的認識興趣,進而找到自我成長的樂趣與價值(我並不是說成長學習過程一定都是快樂的,但是當一步步學到我們想要明白的東西時,那是踏實的快樂滿足)。但是當我們社會裡長期的教育只是為了考好成績、考上所謂的好學校、畢業後找到所謂有保障的高薪的好工作,這個社會構成元件──個人,往往就只能跟隨大眾價值隨波逐流,不曾問過自己究竟喜歡什麼,自己究竟要什麼。如果運氣好,可能遇到一份可以安身的工作,但仍常常也還是莫名地不快樂(我常遇到這類個案…);運氣不好的,就開始如同Alice,沒有學習動力,滿心恐懼無法證明自我以得到眾人肯定,弄到最後,覺得自己能力很差,人生很沒希望,於是一次次惡性循環地封閉逃避。

Education is supposed to inspire people's interest in knowing self and the world, and then to find the joy and value of self-growth (I am not saying that the process of growth and learning must be always happy, but when learning step by step, once to learn what we want to understand, it brings us happiness and satisfaction). But when the long-term education in our society is only to get the scores, to enter the so-called good schools, and to find the so-called guaranteed high-paying good jobs after graduation, this social component—the individual—only follow the trend of mass value and never ask ourselves what we like and what we want. If lucky, people may get a job, but they are still often unhappy (I often encounter such clients...); if unlucky, people start to become as Alice, have no motivation to learn and full of fear about being unable to prove themselves to get everyone's affirmation, to the end, to  feel useless and hopeless in life, then escape and close themselves again and again in a vicious circle.

處理這類個案狀態,其實還是回到他們的成長過程,找到潛意識深處那個渴望或恐懼的模式,一一解開調伏,開啟內在的智慧與動力,其實每個正常的生命,其內在都是渴望成長,當心靈創傷療癒了,自然就會像一棵植物想要吸收陽光,自己尋找朝向陽光,展開正向循環的道路。能陪著Alice回到這樣的能量道路上,我也很開心。

Dealing with such cases, I would actually regress to their past growth experiences, finding the pattern of desire or fear in their subconscious, unraveling and inspiring their inner wisdom and motivation. In fact, every normal life is eager to grow up. When the inner wounds are healed, it will naturally be like a plant that wants to absorb the sun-light and find a way to the sun and start a positive cycle. I am very happy to be able to accompany Alice back to such an energy path.

 

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