段貞夙  老師 (Susan)

 
Why  個案心得及老師解析
 

* New! 阿卡西紀錄解讀:解開人生與職涯卡住的結
Akashic Record Reading:
Untie the Knot of Life and Career
2019.8
* New! 找到人生動力與方向
Get the Motivation and Direction of life " 
2019.7
* 自我防衛帶來了逃避以及莫名不安
Self Defense Brings the Escaping and the Unknown Anxiety. 
2019.4
* 阿卡西記錄解讀:解決自卑情結 
Akashic Record Reading : Get Rid of Inferiority Complex 
2019.1
* 焦慮與抗拒成為一個照顧他人的角色 
Being Anxious and Resisting to Become the Role of Taking Care of Others 
2018.11
* 莫名的潔癖恐慌 
Inexplicable Panic of Fearing to Be Dirty 
2018.4
* 憂鬱症 
Depression 
2018.1
* 童年匱乏愛,導致偏差的愛情及人生方式 2017.7
* 焦慮沮喪 2017.7
* 恐慌症 2017.1
* 煩惱於教養孩子及創業工作
* 內在能量依賴沒長大,導致的情感與人際痛苦
* 恐懼、不敢表達、選擇及承擔---修正負面模式習氣 
* 工作及人生茫然無方向
* 憂鬱症,缺乏動力,易怒
* 情感挫敗不斷重覆
* 人際恐懼、自我封閉
* 既逃避與競爭的矛盾性格
* 暴食及人際上的不開心
* 憂鬱症,人際退縮
* 身心症狀、心悸、恐慌症
* 婆媳夫妻親子關係緊張與憤怒
* 缺乏自信,不敢承擔,甲狀腺機能亢進
* 習於逃避,婚姻不順遂
* 暴食與購物狂之成癮

 
 

*New! 阿卡西紀錄解讀:解開人生與職涯卡住的結
Akashic Record Reading:
Untie the Knot of Life and Career

我長年的困境竟然與父親有關  
My Long-Term Predicament Is Related to My Father

 
TIZA撰                                                

找老師做阿卡西紀錄解讀,是為了另一個困擾我非常久的問題…從大學畢業後幾年,在本科法律相關領域裡工作,但換了幾個工作,總覺得不合心意,自己也搞不懂自己,明明當初懷抱著滿腔熱血與責任感選擇了法律系,為什麼在念書、工作時總覺得有無形的壓力沉沉地壓在肩上?真的愈來愈不懂自己啊…       

To ask for the Teacher Duan’s assistance for reading Akashic record was to resolve another problem that has been bothering me for a long time... I have worked in the field of law which I majored in for several years after graduating from college, but after changing a fe jobs, I found that I still feel uncomfortable and dissatisfied. I really couldn’t understand myself that at the beginning I chose to study law with firm passion and responsibility, “why do I always feel that there is invisible pressure on my shoulders when I study and work now?” I was very confused about myself... 

我請問老師,「我應該繼續走法律這條路,還是該轉換跑道呢?」老師給我的答案不是二選一,而是…「解決跟父親之間的問題,自然會知道自己想走什麼路」,我不明白我的路,跟父親,之間的關係是什麼呢?「正義」,老師說她看見這兩個字,我當下心裡猜「因為想藉由法律擁有力量,對抗父親來得到正義?(因為從小到大我一直覺得自己是以這個目標而一步步往前挺進的,覺得要保護母親跟自己,對抗對家庭不太負責任的父親)」
但老師搖搖頭。
我:「不是嗎…那?」
老師接著說,「你是不是覺得你的父親很可憐?」
我彷彿被雷擊般,當下震驚地說不出話,才結結巴巴地說「是…是啊…」
老師又說:「你是為了幫父親取得正義而選擇了法律系,你希望替父親取得他被剝奪的正義。」
我又楞了半晌,這可能性從來沒有在我有意識的腦海裡出現過,因為成長過程中我一直覺得自己「應該要」不喜歡父親,「應該要」為了母親而對抗父親,但當老師如此講時,我聽到了自己內心真正的答案,我一直覺得父親是個可憐的人,他困在自己的鬱鬱不得志中過了半輩子,其實我不恨父親,只是不知道怎麼愛他…我希望自己能幫他取回力量…但老師接下來更進一步破解了我的迷思——「你不是你的父親,始終無法為他取得他的正義,你能做的便是陪伴他、祝福他能早日取得他的正義」,那一刻我懂了,別人也有他的學習旅程,再親愛的家人,我也不可能幫他走完他要走的路。

I asked the Teacher, "Should I continue to walk on the path of law, or should I change the runway?" The answer the Teacher gave me was not to choose one from the above, but “to solve the problem with your father, you would naturally know where you want to go.”
I was confused, I didn't understand what was the relationship between my way and my father? "Justice," the Teacher said that she saw the word. I tried to guess: "Is it because that I want to have the power of law to fight against my father to win the justice? (Because in my growth process, I always felt that I was advancing step by step with the goal of protecting my mother and myself, so I needed to fight against my father who was not responsible for his family.)"  
But the Teacher shook her head.
I was shocked and said: "No? And?"
The Teacher went on saying, "Did you think your father is very wretched?"
I was too shocked to say anything as if I was struck by lightning, then I stuttered and said, "Yes...Yes..."  
The Teacher added: "You chose to study law was to help your father achieve justice. You wanted to get the justice that your father was deprived for him."
I was stunned for a long while again, this possibility has never appeared in my conscious mind. Because during my growth process, I had always thought that I should not like my father, I should fight against my father for my mother. Although the answer the Teacher gave me wasn’t what I had thought, but when I heard what the Teacher said, I heard the voice of my heart and knew it is exactly the right answer. The fact was that I always thought that my father was a poor man who was trapped in his own depression in half of his lifetime. In fact, I didn’t hate my father, I just didn’t know how to love him... I hoped that I could help him get back his power... But the Teacher further cracked my myths----“You are not your father. It is impossible to help him get his own justice. All you can do is to accompany him and bless him to get his justice.” At that moment, I understood that everyone has his own learning journey, even the dearest family, I still can't complete their lives for them.   

很神奇的是,在做完阿卡西解讀後的不久,某一天我赫然發現自己的改變,我開始不會想起要念法律就覺得壓力很大,以前那股無形的壓力就這樣消失了,我開始能夠享受在法律的工作之中,珍惜每個學習的機會,工作之外也能開心地規劃自己的進修學習,而不是像之前有氣無力,彷彿頂著千斤重擔被逼著去做甚麼事一樣。這結果真的讓我非常地驚喜,我才發現,原來之前因為我潛意識裡自己賦予自己「我要幫父親取得正義」的責任,我不覺得是在過自己的人生,所以無論怎麼過,都不開心,但現在放下了那個本來就不屬於我的責任,我仍然愛我的父親,但我知道每個人的路得由他自己來走,我也開始學著為自己負責、走自己的路,我純粹地在每個當下盡力去做,我真的自然而然知道自己想怎麼走自己的路了,這種輕鬆感真的前所未有,覺得自己輕盈地像天上自由飛翔的鳥兒,說來很不可思議,我真的第一次知道,為自己而活的滋味,我把「如果我不如何如何,父母就會如何如何的罪惡感」的千斤重擔放下了,我開始能夠腳步輕鬆地往前進了。

What amazed me a lot was that shortly after doing the Akashic record reading, one day I accidentally found my change! I felt that there was no more that kind of pressures which were on my shoulders when I read law, the pressure of the past was gone. I was able to begin enjoying the work of law, cherish every opportunity to learn, and be happy to plan my own study outside of work, rather than being as powerless as I was forced to do things. This result really surprised me. I discovered then that it was because I subconsciously gave myself the responsibility of helping my father to achieve justice, I didn’t think I was living my own life, so I was not happy anyway. But now I have let go of that responsibility which shouldn’t belong to me. I still love my father, but I know that everyone’s path has to be walked by himself. I also began to learn taking responsibility for myself and go my own way. I purely do my best in every moment, and then I really know which way I want to go. This feeling of relaxed freedom is really unprecedented. I felt myself freely flying like a bird in the sky. Incredibly, I know the taste of living for myself for the first time. I put down the heavy burden from the guilty of thinking "if I don't do……, my parents will……", I began to move forward easily.

真的很感謝老師幫我找到困住我多年的問題癥結點,再回過頭看時,也才發現,父親並沒有要我為他實踐他的人生,他一直要我走自己的路,只是我的「捨不得拋下他」的執念讓自己困住了,覺得我背負著他的人生,我的成功就是他的成功,我的失敗就是他的失敗,所以壓力非常大…我學會,愛一個人不是為他實踐他的人生,而是祝福他、陪伴他走過他人生中難熬的時刻。而且,也只有當我能夠獨自站立、過好自己的人生時,也才有力量成為支持他人的存在。

I really appreciate the Teacher for helping me find the crux of my problems which I has been trapped for many years. When I look back, I realize that my father never wanted me to live his life for him. He always wanted me to go my own way. I made myself trapped in the obsession of “reluctant to leave him”, so I felt that I was carrying his life, my success was his success, my failure was his failure, so there was really heavy pressure..., now I learn that loving someone is not to live his life for him, but bless him and accompany him through the difficult moments of his life. Moreover, only when I can stand independently and live my life, can I have the power to support others.  

老師幫我做完阿卡西紀錄解讀後,我回去後反思了很久自己的狀態,因為童年愛的匱乏,我不知道怎麼去愛(我覺得)可憐的父親、想起了幾年前剛跟老師學習潛意識心靈課程時,老師曾說過,我還沒從原生家庭中獨立,那時候我聽不懂,但現在恍然大悟,原來我是這麼渴望能得到父親的愛,希望透過背負父親的人生感覺我跟他站在一起的愛。在此之前,我一直覺得我努力地在逃離原生家庭的禁錮,沒想到我只是肉體不在原生家庭,其實我的心靈模式一直沒有離開過啊…沒想到這麼多年來,我的「渴愛」,竟是以這麼變裝的方式存在著,因為自己都認不出來了這渴愛的形式,當然也就無從改變了,非常感謝老師讓我看懂了,有機會改寫自己的心靈模式。

After the Teacher read my Akashic record for me, I reflected on my own state for a long time. Because of the lack of love from childhood, I didn’t know how to love my poor father. Then I recalled that when I just began to learn the subconsciousness course from the Teacher a few years ago, the Teacher once said that I had not been independent from my original family. At that time, I didn’t understand what it meant, but now I realize that I was so eager to get the love of my parents so that I lived my father’s life for him to feel the love of being with him. Before this, I always felt that I was making every effort to escape from the confinement of my original family. I didn't expect that I just ran away from my original family physically; in fact, my mind pattern had never left. I have never thought that my "thirst for love" has existed for many years in such a disguised form, and because I couldn't recognize the form of my thirst for love, and of course I couldn't change it. Thank the Teacher very much for leading me to see the truth and have the opportunity to rewrite my own mind pattern.

有了醒悟之後,我下定決心要勇敢地走自己的路,為自己負責後,工作依然忙碌,但心態自在愉悅多了,也知道接下來的路自己想要怎麼走。

After waking up, I made up my mind to be brave to take my own path. After I took responsibility for myself, my work was still busy, but my mind was pleasant, and I knew how the following road I want to go.

對於父親,因為我不再背負著他的人生,對他也沒了怨懟(原來,我對父親的怨懟,並不是因為生氣他對自己的人生跟家庭擺爛,而是生氣他讓我必須背負他的人生,讓我覺得很辛苦,但其實是我自以為是地想要幫他扛起他的人生,卻又為了自己扛不起而生他的氣,他真的也很無辜…),我開始能夠客觀地去看待他的困境,然後自然而然地付出我的關心。做完阿卡西紀錄解讀後,有次跟他聊天時,看著他佈滿歲月痕跡的黝黑臉上露出的靦腆和煦笑容,我突然覺得我終於可以好好愛他了,真是美好啊!

For my father, because I no longer carry his life, I have no complaints about him. (It turns out that my resentment towards my father was not because that he was ruining his own life and family, but was angry that he increased the burden of mine which made me be in great pain, but actually it was just my wishful thinking that I wanted to help him pick up his life, and then I was angry with him because I couldn’t carry his life. He was really innocent...), I started to be able to realize his dilemma objectively and then naturally paid respect to him. After the reading of Akashic record, one time when I chatted with him, I saw the shy and warm smile on his dark face, suddenly I felt I finally could love him, how wonderful!


段老師的話 (Teacher Duan’s Words)

阿卡西紀錄解讀,其實跟個案親自去做潛意識探索,結果很類似,但是路徑不同,就像我在本網站的What學理說明的文章裡提到,潛意識處理是我帶著個案進去他的潛意識,他的親自經歷,使得他的領悟震撼與療癒收穫會較全面且深入,潛意識處理後回到生活中,改變會很明顯。阿卡西紀錄解讀的方便,在於比較不受個案本人是否有內在抗拒而影響,由我在個案的授權邀請之下,進入他的阿卡西紀錄(或說他的身心靈雲端硬碟)幫他看到他的問題根源,如此可以更快找到源頭。本文作者Tiza因為過去已經做過潛意識處理,加上也在我這裡學習潛意識相關課程數年了,因此我在幫他讀阿卡西紀錄時,他也能在我的說明出來之後,自己進入潛意識去瞬間明白自己問題的來龍去脈,效果可以說更加成。

The outcome of reading the Akashic record is actually similar with exploring the subconscious, but the path of two of them is different. As I mentioned in the theory analysis articles of “What” in the website, the subconscious treatment is that I lead the clients into their subconscious, their personal experiences will make their comprehension and healing gain more comprehensive and in-depth, after returning to their lives after treatment, and the change will be very obvious. The convenience of Akashic record reading is that it is not affected by whether the client has internal resistance. I am allowed to enter his Akashic record field (as his body, mind and spirit cloud hard-disk) under the authorization of the client, I can saw the root of his problem, then we could find it faster. Tiza had done subconscious treatment in the past, and also studied subconscious courses from me for several years, therefore, when I read her Akashic record, after I explained it, she could also enter her subconscious to understand her own problems immediately, the effect was more.

作為一個阿卡西解讀師,其實在記錄的場域裡,自己也常被記錄裡的答案震撼與感動。確實我多年來,我在幫個案作潛意識處理時,經常時不時地,自動會「感應」到個案內在的一些訊息,確實幫助了我適時地引導個案去探索到問題源頭,進而解決,但是我平常很自制地,甚至是刻意迴避去接收一些訊息,一方面是覺得不該未經他人同意去知道人家的事情(這道德感,似乎天生就有),除非是個案有需要;二方面就像走在路上,雖然四周有各種東西,但也沒必要什麼都要去看個仔細啊。如果這些訊息還是不經意地猛力闖進我的感覺裡,我也會看狀況是否得宜,而決定是否說出來。

To be an Akashic record reader, in fact, in the field of recording, I am often shocked and moved by the answers in the record. Indeed, for many years, when I was doing subconsciously treatments for clients, I often "sensed" automatically some information of the client, it really helped me to guide the client to explore the source of the problem and solve it, but I usually self-control, even intentionally avoid to receive some information, on the one hand, I feel that I should not know others’ stuff (it’s my moral principal), unless it can really help the client; On the other hand, as walking on the road, although there are so many kinds of things around, there is no need to see everything. If the information still inadvertently rushes into my mind, I will also see if the situation is appropriate and then decide whether to tell that person.

因此,也是當天在Tiza的記錄中,我才知道,原來是想為她的可憐父親爭口氣,所以給了自己很重的負擔,一定要考上什麼,才能如何如何,這麼曲曲繞繞的原因,就像沙灘裡的小小塑膠脆片,深埋在她的潛意識裡,影響她這麼久,使得她書念得辛苦,人生也過得沈重。宇宙的愛其實真的一直存在在我們心中與四周,只等我們在人生道路困頓處,終於願意停下來問自己怎麼了,這份無私的愛,就會以智慧的聲音流出,照亮我們的黑暗,這就是生命的學習之旅,能有幸陪著Tiza看懂,看到她這些年的成長變化,我真的也很開心。

Therefore, in Tiza’s Akashic record at that moment, I just realized that she wanted to act well for her wretched father, so she gave herself a heavy burden, and she thought she had to enter good school or got some licenses. The reason, like a small plastic chip in the beach, buried deep in her subconsciousness, affected her for so long and made her studied so hard and life so heavy. In fact, the love of the universe has always existed in our hearts and around us, just waiting for us to be in a difficult situation in life, and finally willing to stop and ask ourselves what happened. This unconditional love will flow out with wisdom and illuminate our inner dark, this is just the learning journey of life. It’s my pleasure to accompany Tiza to understand and see her growth and development over these years. I really feel very Happy.

 

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