為得到肯定而迷失自我
Lose Oneself For Getting affirmed

當一個人一直處在一種想得到他人肯定的模式時，在面臨選擇學校科系、工作、朋友、伴侶、生活方式，會感受到更大的壓力，「我這樣對嗎？我這樣好嗎？」而忽略了問自己是甚麼？我究竟要甚麼。
When a person being always in a pattern wanting approval from others, face the choice of school department, job, friend, partner, and lifestyle, they will feel more pressure all the time. “Am I right if I choose this? Am I okay if I choose that?” Instead of asking oneself what I am? what do I want?

因為在成長中，只有我必須做對、我必須做好，不曾探索過我是甚麼、我要甚麼。
Because during the period of growth, there is only “I have to do right, I have to do well,” and never explore “what I am?” and “what I want?”

通常在面臨選擇的時候，又很容易落入這樣的解決方式，詢問周邊的父母親友師長，想得到認同或保障。但問題是，人生是自己的，每個人也獨一無二，又如何從他人那裏得到真正適合自己的答案呢？
Usually at this time facing choice, people used to fall into such a way for solution, ask their parents, friends, and teachers, hope to get approval or assurance. But the question is, life is your own, and everyone is unique, so how can you get the proper answer that really suits you from others?

人生不是來得到一個正確以獲得安全，人生是來經歷、體驗、學習、創造、擴展、成長。或說在這樣的過程裡，我們才真正活出了自己。
Our life purpose of soul is not to get a “right” for security but to experience, understand, learn, create, expand, and grow. In such a process, we just truly create ourselves.



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