做有助於關係的表達
Make Expressions
Helping The Relationship

有些人喜歡把情緒或想法拿來要對方猜，認為如果對方猜中了，就代表對方懂我、在乎我，如果反之，便代表你不在乎我。其實這不是個成熟的做法，因為在乎與否跟能不能懂你，真的是兩回事，我們對自己也未必都懂啊。
some people like the way hiding their feelings and thoughts and expect another one to get it, if you got it, they think it means you understand or care about them, if not, it means you do not care. In fact, it’s immature. Caring and understanding are two things, sometimes we may not understand all of ourselves.

通常會這樣做的人，在內心原始的動機是期待藉此得到一個保證，證明你懂我、證明自己是被在乎的，進而肯定自己的存在價值。但是這種做法往往是把關係推向險境，造成彼此誤解、情感受傷，甚至關係破裂。
The reason why they do that way in their inner original motivation is expecting to get an assurance “You understand me” to prove they are being cared, then confirm their existence value. However, it will usually push the relationship to a dangerous situation making the misunderstanding emotionally hurt and even the relationship breakdown.

每人都有不同的成長背景與學習過程，因此對事物可能有著不同的看法，即使面對同一句話，兩個人的感受或理解可能不一樣。偶爾小猜是情趣，但是最好的溝通方式，還是坦誠帶著想要幫助彼此更加靠近的善意來表達。
Everyone has different growth backgrounds and learning process which make us may have different perspectives, if facing a same sentence, two people may have different realizations. Sometimes a small guess is fun, but the best communication is to express frankly with the good intention helping each other get closer.


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